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Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.03.28 #1
need advice po sa lahat ng makakabasa nito.... kasi ganito yun... yung trainor naman namin magaling.. kaya nga lang napansin namin na may favoritism siya sa choir.. yung magkapatid na nakapisan sa kanya.... ngayon kasi parang nakafocus lang siya sa pagtuturo sa dalawang iyon. yung iba naman nagtataka na at walang maglakas ng loob na komprontahin siya o tanungin about doon.... as of now naglielow ako sa choir two weeks na akong di nagpraktis at kumakanta ng dahil doon... parang nagrebelde ako in behalf of my choirmates na ayaw makapagsalita... nag-oopen kasi sila sa akin sa mga napuna nila at yung mga ini-expect nila sa grupo ako naman wala ring lakas ng loob magsalita kaya nagrebelde ako now.... i know hindi masolusyunan ito sa ginagawa ko ngayon... ano bang dapat kong gawin? please help naman
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(parang off topic po ang tanong a )

D'MECC.... parang kami din nung kami ay mga totoy at neneng pa....

Teka pakilinaw mo nga ang "magkapatid na nakapisan sa kanya..." parang merong pakahulugan na mas malalim ito a...

Hindi maiiwasan ang tampuhan o pagre-rebelde, pero hindi solusyon ang paglayo at di pag-uusap. Para kasing sinimulan mong magburn ng bridge instead na gumawa nito. Cutting communication lines is not the best means of airing your concern. Ang isang taong mature, maiintindihan ang mga bagay-bagay na dapat dinadaan sa usapan.

Personal mong lapitan at kausapin.... daanin sa hinahon at ipaalam ang iyong saloobin..

Sana makatulong.
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maselan ang ganyan sitwasyon pero dapat din nating isipin na ang hindi ang grupo/koro ang kawawa kundi ang lituhiya. tama si kuya alex daanin muna sa malumanay na paguusap.
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Re: Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.04.04 #4
Pero bago ang lahaaaaat, magdasal muna at humingi ng intervention kay Lord. Tutal siya naman ang puno't dulo kung bakit nagseserve tayong lahat e.

Kaya nyo yan, kuya, ipagdarasal ko kayo.
At the rate our people are bombarded with all sorts of Western pop and commercial music through radio, television, jukeboxes, record players, and movies the day may not be too far away when we shall have committed our own native music to the grave; harshly forgotten, abandoned, its beauty laid to waste by an unknowing generation whose only fault is not having been given the chance to cultivate a love of it

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Re: Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.04.05 #5
Hello po...

Una sa lahat, problems are just natural sa mga choir, actually diba nga sabi po nila abnormal ang buhay mo pag wala kang problema ang the mere fact na wala kang problem is a problem. Also, sabi sa mathematics, a problem is not a problem kung walang solution.

In my opinion po at nasabi niyo rin po, na hindi masosolusyonan ang problema niyo sa ginawa niyo. I think that is true po... Turning your back against the problem for me shows cowardliness, inability to solve the problem and making the problem worst. I think sa nangyari po kasi you let hatred, anger, pride, suspicions and fear overcome your aim which is to serve GOD.

As I read your post po you already stated the solution, try having an open forum and try to voice out what you think and what you want to happen para malaman niyo din po baka may dahilan siya bakit nabibigyan nya ng utmost attention yung mga kamag-anak niya. Being a choirmaster din po kasi though minsan may nabibigyan ako ng extra training kasi kailangan lang po... Atsaka being a choirmaster, mahal mo lahat ng members mo...

OPEN COMMUNICATION I think that is the solution po...

But of course always seek the guidance of the Lord...

Good Luck to your choir po and continue serving... Hopefully masolusyunan niyo na po yan... Sabi nga "Kahit ang pinakablurred na tubig ay lilinaw sa takdang panahon."

God Bless you po...

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Re: Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.04.05 #6
You can't really verify what you feel unless you verify it. I mean, have the guts to tell your trainor that you feel that way. Saying that to him, more or less, sets him on the track to reflect on his actions, if not fix his "mistake". Even if he denies it now, the fact that he knows you feel that way should make him think. Trust me on this one.

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susubukan ko kuya Alexander.. kasi nasanay na ako na hangga't masama pa ang loob ko sa isang tao hindi ko na muna siya kinakausap tungkol sa problema ko sa kanya kasi hindi ko kasi mapigilan ang aking bibig kaya mas choice ko na pahupain muna ang saloobin ko sa tao na iyon bago ko siya kausapin... tama rin po ba ito?
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Re: Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.04.05 #8
nakokonsensya na nga ako eh kasi nakita ko na parang nawalan na rin ng gana ang iba na recruit ko na sumali sa choir nang makita nilang naglie low ako sa grupo....
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Re: Choir Problems: Favoritism, Posted 11.04.06 #9
Kaming mag-asawa nagtuturo ngayon ng choir, sya ang 'aleng taga-kumpas' at ako ang 'mamang taga-tugtog'

Nung choir members pa kami dati, parehas kaming nakaranas makalipat sa iba't-ibang boses sa iba't ibang choir. Ako naging tenor, bass (satb), bass1&2, tenor 1&2 (ttbb). Sya rin ganun, nakapag alto/soprano at nakalibot din sa mga boses sa ssaa.

Ngayong kami na ang may hawak ng choir, we tend to focus on what we know best, I listen and criticize the boys and she focuses on the girls. But now that she has to rest a bit while carrying our 2nd child , ako ang naiiwang mag-isa magturo. At dahil nga sa naging set-up namin, medyo nababaliwala ko na pala ang girls. Mabuti na lang at nang minsang makapagkwentuhan kami, na-open nung isang soprano na parang nagseselos na raw sila sa boys, dahil puro boys lang ang pinapansin ko. Because I was made aware, we were able to work things out.

The moral of the story is (long story short, hehe), if the choir master doesn't realize that s/he is neglecting some of the members, someone has to let him/her know. Take the initiative, communication is the key. Hope this helps.
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hey casper lam mo naman prob namin dba? ok lang ba i open dto hay..sa group naman po namin may prob na kame within the group tapos marame pa po yung nanggugulo sa labas... hinati nila yung group namin, kinuha nila yung mga gitarista namin pati yung mga ibang member,, naiwan ako at mga bagong recruit na tig 8,9,10 years old plang.. wala pa sila masyado alam na mga kanta.. minus one na din yung mga ginagamit namin.... need super advice....hay.. kailangan ko na ba mag quit? tapos ibigay na lahat sa kanila mga member??
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